Life strategies: doing what works, doing what matters by Phillip C. Mcgraw

Book Summary

Life Strategies (1999) lays out a framework of ten clear, action‑oriented principles—McGraw’s "Life Laws"—designed to help readers take control of their lives:

1. You either get it or you don’t – Understand and accept key truths before you act.

2. You create your own experience – Acknowledge personal responsibility over your life.People do what works – Identify the pay-offs sustaining your behavior.

3. You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge – Self-awareness is essential for transformation. 

4. Life rewards action – Success comes from doing, not just thinking. “Life rewards action, not reaction.”

5. There is no reality; only perception – Challenge your filters; people see the world differently.

6. Life is managed; it is not cured – Life requires ongoing effort, not quick fixes.

7. We teach people how to treat us – Set healthy boundaries through your actions. 

8. There is power in forgiveness – Letting go of anger frees you. 

9. You have to name it before you claim it – Be precise about what you want before pursuing it.

About the Author

Dr. Phillip C. McGraw, widely known as Dr. Phil, is a clinical psychologist, best-selling author, and renowned television personality. He first gained national recognition through his regular appearances on The Oprah Winfrey Show, where his direct, no-nonsense advice struck a chord with audiences. Building on that success, he launched his own daytime talk show, Dr. Phil, in 2002, where he has helped millions tackle personal, relational, and psychological challenges.

Dr. Phil earned a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of North Texas and co-founded Courtroom Sciences, Inc., a legal consulting firm. With a background in both psychology and human behavior, he has authored several bestsellers—including Life Strategies, Self Matters, and Relationship Rescue—all reflecting his practical, solution-oriented approach.

Known for his blunt delivery and tough-love philosophy, Dr. Phil encourages personal accountability and behavioral change, emphasizing that people must "own their truth" in order to make meaningful progress in life. His work continues to influence both clinical practice and popular self-help culture.