Book Summary
Getting to “I Do” is a relationship guide that explains how understanding masculine and feminine energy dynamics can help people create lasting, committed partnerships. Dr. Pat Allen argues that successful relationships depend on partners choosing and consistently embodying either the masculine role (leading, providing direction, making decisions) or the feminine role (receiving, supporting, inspiring vision). The book outlines how mismatched or fluctuating energies can lead to conflict, confusion, or emotional distance. Through practical exercises, communication strategies, and real-life examples, Allen teaches readers how to identify their core energy, set healthy boundaries, express needs without manipulation, and make choices aligned with long-term commitment. The goal is to empower individuals to break unhealthy patterns, date with clarity, and build relationships that naturally progress toward emotional fulfillment and marriage.
About the Authors:
Dr. Pat Allen is a psychotherapist, relationship counselor, and communication expert known for her work on gender polarity, interpersonal boundaries, and honest communication in romantic relationships. With decades of clinical experience, she has developed a direct, structured approach that blends psychology, behavioral science, and her signature “masculine–feminine energy” framework. Sandra Harmon, a writer and producer, collaborated with Allen to help translate her teachings into an engaging, accessible format. Together, they created a book that distills Allen’s therapeutic methods into practical tools for anyone seeking healthy, committed love.
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